How Can Business Women Harmonize Their Career With Family Life?

Over the years, women have conquered their space in society and within companies, where they have - practically - the same rights as men. In an overview, this is synonymous with conquest and victory for us.

Women are more independent in every way, socially, financially and professionally, and thus have greatly increased their burden of tasks and responsibilities. The woman who makes up a family, whether or not she has children, often has to make choices between her career and her family, when this becomes very frequent it can cause frailties, problems and even ruptures.

Woman by nature has a very great strength, and when she really knows what she wants, she uses that strength to walk and pursue her goals. The fact is that many women get lost in the middle of the road and seek answers to solve family issues that arise along their trajectory. It is important to say that these questions appear almost every day in every week. Woman who has children, knows well about it.

No news so far, the fact is how to deal with these daily issues, which will always exist and be a good professional, good housewife, wife and mother. Balancing and regulating the head for what really matters is the beginning to have a harmonious life. The first step is to know that you cannot have everything and do everything all the time, the quality of how it is done has more meaning than quantity.

The Business Woman, who understands what she really wants and where she wants to go, knows what she needs to do and the time she will spend on it. Focusing on the solution, following her planning and being prepared to deal with everyday household issues, barriers and prejudices is part of the woman's career.

I believe that prejudice has always existed and there will always be for all reasons that someone decides they will judge someone for something they do not know or believe to be right. The prejudice for a woman to occupy a certain position, function, or for her ideas, even if today is more unconscious, is a subject that the business woman must know how to handle and overcome through their experiences, expertise and professional quality.

I always say that anyone who went into the rain is to get wet, because being a professional in a modern, globalized world where competition is great, getting their place in the sun, women need to have a well-established goal, to be strong, persistent, resilient, knowing the values that matter and pushing them forward every day.

The woman is a human being equal to the man, with feelings, responsibilities and sense of protection. What changes is the way of seeing the world and dealing with situations. The man also has a family and the charge is often greater, sometimes veiled. The lesson I draw from this, I make use of in my life, with my family.

I request my husband a lot and share the responsibilities with him, but I must respect his time and the way he sees situations, otherwise nothing done. I've tried to be right in everything and want everything my way, until I got sick and he took care of everything and everything worked out in the end. From this day everything fit in much better and came out a HUGE weight from my back.

My career and family life are much better now.

I am the mother of two girls, wife, businesswoman, I have five dogs and a cat. I demand a lot in my professional tasks, because I have my goals well established, I know where I want to go, I love being a mother and I am quite present in the day to day of the girls, I am totally aware that sometimes I fail, that some household chores are bad managed. Facing this naturally does not really affect my life, because my career and my family are on the list of priorities, as long as one does not interfere with the other.

The truth is that for me to be happy both areas need to be in balance and for me to achieve this, there can be no competition between the two. In my head this is very well established, and whenever an area needs more attention I give, without stressing myself or feeling guilty. I am finalizing a project that lasted 3 months in a client outside of São Paulo, I go and return every day to attend this client. It is a very intense phase, I have to be a Wonder Woman, to be able to give attention to my family, and to be able to do a job with great effectiveness and quality.

Moreover, I do an MBA and intensive courses that I stay in days of immersion. My family life is super healthy and balanced, the time I am with them is of quality and dedicated to them, without interferences of work, without computer or cellphone.

For all this to happen it is necessary to establish the goals, plan of action, know how to identify what is priority and what is important. The balance lies in directing your mind to focus on solving and meeting quality-of-life goals, respecting what is really valuable to YOU.

Daniela Mello Ferreira